If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it.
Shadows of doubt and fear free#
As you identify any discordant feelings about your goals and ambitions, you’ll be able to take steps to free yourself from their pernicious influence. The same principle applies to the delicate subject of money and financial reward. When you feel comfortable about success in other people’s lives, you’re more likely to feel comfortable about success in yours. Any hint of jealousy, resentment or a burning sense of injustice will reveal insights into how you really feel about success. When you ask yourself how you really feel about success, for example, you might be surprised to discover unexpected feelings about the people who’ve achieved major success in their lives. The best clue to these largely hidden aspects of our personalities can be found in our emotional responses. But the deeper doubts that question our worthiness need to be exposed and uprooted and neutralised. We need to be free to question anything that crosses our path. We still need to retain our healthy degree of cynicism. The antidote, however, is not to adopt a blind and unquestioning certainty. The first step is to recognise that these doubts exist. Because ‘it was never meant to be.’ This is the poisonous effect of doubt that seeks to undermine our efforts and derail our plans.ĭoubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. One minor setback and we throw up our arms in despair and quit the race. It whispers darkly in the depths of our hearts and reminds us that we’ll never be truly worthy of success. It silently confirms our deep-set fears and mocks our ambitions. It feeds into our insecurities and erodes our confidence.
We feel excluded from the ranks of those ‘others’ who seem destined to achieve everything their heart’s desire. These early, conditioned behaviours sow the seeds of doubt and call our ambitions into question. But, if you grew up in a family that was suspicious of money – and especially suspicious of anyone who had any kind of wealth – it’s easy to appreciate how easy it is to feel uncomfortable around financial success. It was an innocent attempt to protect us from disappointment. The origins of doubt can usually be traced to those early childhood days when we were taught not to expect too much from life. The challenge is to recognise them and limit their influence upon our lives.Īnd make us lose the good we oft might win, The real problem is that the doubts were already lurking beneath the surface, just waiting for something to go wrong before they emerge like unwanted guests at a wedding feast, fully intent on spoiling everything and demolishing our dreams. And this is the kind of attitude that persuades many to quit or to reduce their efforts – because they don’t believe their goals and dreams are achievable. Many of us see our problems as inevitable and interpret then as evidence that we’re not really supposed to succeed. It’s as if we accept the setbacks as evidence that our lives are not supposed to follow a smooth and even pathway. If you’ve ever faced any kind of setback, you’ll probably be all too familiar with the doubts that seem to follow in the wake of defeat.
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